What could be the perfect gift for a Pastor’s wife when there are so many qualities that need to be continually nurtured and material things that she needs just so she is equipped to play her role much easier and better. Your answer is as good as mine; ‘countless’. It therefore means that gifts fit for a Pastor’s wife are also countless.
Traditionally, a Pastor’s wife is a councillor to the mothers, youth and Sunday school kids in church. As much as it might not be the case in most churches today, it still applies for Pastor’s wives to give counselling to these groups in one or the other.
Some Qualities
1. Courage – this is not dependant on the size of the church as some may assume, but by the virtue of being a Pastor’s wife, she needs the courage to face daily one-on-one meetings with members of the church. Further to that, his husband, the Pastor, needs her to be courageous to support him lead the church.
2. Patience–people differ, without patience, the Pastor’s wife may soon get tired and begin to be selective of people to assist and those to avoid.
3. Friendliness – friendliness means being approachable, easier to talk to and being warm hearted. Long-time members and visitors may prefer seeing the Pastor’s wife for any assistance they need as opposed to the Pastor. These people should feel welcome to approach the pastor’s wife.
4. Wisdom–it is not every form of assistance that a Pastor’s wife can provide. She needs to know what to refer to the Pastor, elders, etc.
The list is endless as you know, but you also can assist the Pastor’s wife to nurture the qualities she needs. Even if you need help in these qualities yourself, you can help her by giving a perfect gift such as a good book (click here) she will read at her own time.
I believe it is true that a husband is as good as the wife can allow. If your Pastor is good with his duties, it goes to say that the wife offers her support and the impact is positive. The above listed qualities and more, are necessary to support the Pastor.
A good Pastor’s wife is one that will encourage his husband to keep doing what is right before God and fulfil all his duties as a husband as well. A busy person like the Pastor needs encouragement. I suggest a book by H. Norman Wright ‘Bringing out the Best in Your Husband’.
H. Norman Wright addresses an important subject that many wives need to improve on. A husband that is encouraged by his wife goes further that the norm and it is the best thing a wife can do for his husband. Every wife should read this book. It is amazing that the benefits will definitely come back to you as the wife who encourages your man.
If you are in Swaziland, you can get the book from our bookshop behind the main post office. It goes for E 120.00 or buy it online by clicking here.
